Another week of frustrations and fun.

This week I focused on putting together the documents required for my contract. I needed an up- to-date CV and certified copies of all my qualifications, passport, working with children and I needed a new Prolice Check.  This took most of Monday, and Wednesday. It still rankles that I am having to do this but I accept it is a requirement. I feel too committed to the library team and the course to refuse and opt out of the job but I  have a lot of mixed feelings over this work commitment. I find it hard to get my head focused on the work. This is a sign I am doing something I was trying to get away from in the first place. It feels so restrictive after the freedom of last year.

I went into work on Wednesday to sign the contract with most of the documents completed and only the Police check outstanding.  I ended up staying to search for my Diploma and then clean out several files as the team is shifting to a new location and I never did it properly when I left last year.  I was so engrossed that I nearly forgot about my Pilates class! 

This time I just dropped everything and went off immediately to make the class. When I was working I would have decided it was too hard. I was pleased with myself and Michelle the instructor is making us work hard on different parts of our bodies so that I feel a real benefit. It is a good contrast to the regular Gym work.

Tuesday after minding Ziggy Nick and Jonathan my sons, came back to my place for dinner and to work on their Tshirt business Common Dust. They had established a routine while I was away of coming  once a week to work together  on the business. They always used to come and visit me fairly regularly but this was a good way of keeping the plants watered and gives them a space free from distractions. I whipped up a quick pork and vegetable and rice dish that was pretty delicious and then they got to work and I read and watched the tennis. Very comfortable. I enjoy having them here because I get to see how they are and how the fledgling business is developing. I always get a warm glow of  love and pride. Peter would be so proud to see them as the men they are now.

I sat up too late again trying to decide where to go for Yum Cha Saturday and for dinner Thursday night with my sister-in-law Micky. She is in Melbourne waiting for her husband Gary and daughter Vivienne to return from riding in the public part of the Tour Down Under in Adelaide. We are all going to my other B-I-L's birthday on Sunday at Oakridge winery in the Yarra Valley.

In the end I selected the Hare and Grace not far from their hotel in Collins Street for dinner and it proved to be perfect. Great interesting food, a warm ambience where we could talk without shouting. So many restaurants get so noisy it is hard to hear each other and you end up with a sore throat from straining to talk. The wait staff were very amiable and attentive though we were always distracted by our conversation and not ready to order etc.

Friday Janine and I went off to see Wild the movie about Cheryl Strayed  walking the Pacific Trail up the west coast of America. It was enjoyable but I felt that Reese Witherspoon didn't really capture the difficulty and physical pain of such a trek. The first days, with a pack too large and heavy and without a hat or any real preparation, she never ever looked red in the face or got sunburnt. She didn't look like a real hiker. Janine and I had a lot of discussion over coffee about the story and the films's portrayal.

I had a late dinner at home and sat up again too late watching tennis and reading.

Saturday I took the train to town to meet Micky and the boys with Ziggy for Yum Cha.  Ziggy loves Yum Cha and it was a lively lunch.

 

We all went our separate ways, Micky and I to shop the boys home. I ended up in David Jones in search of some pretty  underwear. After the walk everything looks very used!! My first job was in the underwear section of Myer and I have always loved pretty underwear since but it is so expensive these days and frankly not really designed for the more mature bod.  It was hard work trying on about 16 bras in order to get four pretty but also effective bras. Forget pretty knickers to match. Ceaser scars and post twins tummy need a bit more than flimsy lace.  I left and headed for the train via the new Emporium shopping complex where Clare (Jonathan's partner) works part-time at Sass & bide. The Emporium is all fancy shops and glamour and very international feeling. It is my first time in the complex and I am impressed.  

This will be a regular stop when I am teaching in the city. Clare needed to walk to their other shop in Melbourne Central so we walked and talked and I received the warmest of hugs when we parted. That made me feel good. We seem to be getting closer which is lovely. By now I am feeling weary but I have promised to go to dinner with Micky and Gary and friends before the tennis tonight at 7:00pm. The old compulsion to say yes hasn't left me. I have a quick coffee and realise I am probably dehydrated so down a bottle of water. 

The text comes from Gary that we are going to eat in Swan Street. After checking with Janine about parking at her place I decide to take the car. Last year after the Tennis finished so late catching a train was out of the question and  I had to take a group taxi. I arrive before the others and secure a table at Meatballs wine bar.

It is very trendy and the food was good and quick. Lovely meatballs of beef, pork, chicken or vegetable.  As we left the music was cranking up and my ears were beginning to ring! I am getting too old to eat in such an environment now! Gary, Vivienne and I went off to the Tennis at the Margaret Court Arena while the others went home. The match featured the French player Guille Simon and Spanish David Ferrer.  At first it seemed a bit workmanlike  but when we thought it was all over for the Frenchman,  he fought back to make it into a five set match that could have gone either way. 

 

Gary and Vivienne were tired from their cycling in the Tour Down Under so I drove them back to their hotel . 

Tomorrow is the lunch in the Yarra Valley and I am taking them all out there. Another big day.

Life is so full- of choices.

I have had such an interesting and in some ways challenging few days.  My husbands cousin in Adelaide rang to see if I could visit a couple of apartments for their daughter who has landed a job at the Melbourne Children's hospital. I haven't viewed rentals since I was first married so it was a bit of an adventure and gave an insight into the process. Lots of competition and the places were not that fabulous. When I think of Nick and Jonathan with their apartments,the first above a Vietnamese restaurant, these weren't too bad.  I did get to explore the vicinity which was fun., like being a tourist in my own city. 

 The Elwood place. 

After visiting the Elwood flat I wandered down to St Kilda looking for brioche for dinner. St Kilda is not far and it was hopping. It is famous for its cake shops and beach vibe.

  Cup cake tree.

Next on my agenda was going out to Warrandyte( my old suburb) for another birthday dinner with Angie and her husband Tim. They have a lovely pool and spa which we retired to after dinner. Such a relaxing evening it was midnight before  we knew it. I stayed overnight and returned home to do some spring cleaning and find all my qualifications and documents for the casual teaching job. I cleared out heaps of paper and magazines. That was cathartic. The days of saying "I can do that tomorrow " are over.  I am as bad as our students. I feel quite reluctant to put my work shackles back on. Even using those words says it all but I want to help the team out so I will buckle down and get work focused. Time is running out as the term starts in early February.  

This week is just as busy as last week with the Sydney Leong's visiting for the Australian Open Tennis and  my other brother in law's birthday lunch on Sunday.

I keep saying I will do it next week when things calm down and they never do. I am responsible for my actions and I am keeping some days free so I don't get overwhelmed and over complicated. It is so tempting and easy to have every moment filled.  Camino calm requires space in my life.

Back in Melbourne

After a couple of days with Mum at Edens Landing and a catch up with Cousin Jan (with whom I travelled in Croatia last year) I returned to Melbourne. I was back on Ziggy minding duty immediately which is a joy mostly. We had a busy day painting, going for baby chino and doing inside games because of the rain,

Wednesday was my first chance to catch up on mail, watering (the balcony garden is looking a sorry site with plants lost to heat and lack of watering), the chillis have survived and are beginning to ripen. It was my birthday and I had made arrangements with the sons and partners to have dinner. It is not often I get the whole group together so this was special. I received so many well wishes I felt very loved. Dinner was fun at ZumZum in Nrth Carlton. It is a Middle eastern restaurant and not too expensive. Necessary after the Christmas splurge! The boys paid and handed me gorgeous bunches of flowers. I am blessed to have such loving sons and delightful partners.

Thursday I went into Box Hill Institute to sign a contract for this years casual teaching. This now involves getting a certified copy of my passport to prove I am eligible to work in Australia! I have only worked there for 18 years and need to provide a CV, working with children card, police check etc . It is bureaucratic lunacy. I have actually only been I engaged with BHI for less than three months. It is not like I am completely new employee. I am regretting saying yes to this and tying myself down again. My stars said I needed to break old patterns and I thought what did that mean? Now here I am repeating the same crap; the Stars had something, I should have listened.  I am doing it for the team not BHI but... The idiocy is galling. I am even crosser at myself for being cross. Go figure. 

My brother-in-law David and his wife Anne Marie and their daughter Jacina and her partner Andrew with Anne Marie's mother came for dinner the same evening and I started my campaign to cook through one whole cook book aka Julie Julia. I selected my Jamie Oliver 30 mins because of time constraints and  in an attempt to be realisitic about the challenge. After travelling for so long last year I wanted to modernise my cooking repertoire and improve my skills. It was a great success and though it took me more than 30 minutes it was quite quick overall. I added a dessert of poached white peaches with raspberries. Everyone seemed to like it and I felt a real sense of achievement but forgot to take photos. I learned about some new ingredients I don't use ( capers and anchovies). My skill has been more towards the Asian and Italian so this will extend my cooking. It was fun.

Friday was a day out walking the cliff top from Hampton to Black Rock with my friend Kim and sharing fish and chips at Half Moon Bay with her husband David who joined us. Kim and I returned by foot walking and talking of course and caught up on almost everything that has happened over the last few months. 

I had a nice quiet evening at home  eating some leftovers which tasted even better I am happy to say.

Flat Rock , Ballina, NSW 3rd January

Nick delivered me to the airport on the 27th and I flew to Brisbane to visit with my mother and brothers. Mum and I stayed with my younger brother Tim and his partner Donna in their apartment at Southport. It has a magnificent view up the Broadwater to Stradbroke Island.

 The weather is wet though so we took in two movies, Russell Crowes the Water Diviner and Mr Turner. The first was most enjoyable and the second was an interesting biography of the painter but not so engaging. I am hoping the weather will clear for camping at Flat Rock.

Tim had business in Coolangatta so I went with him early so we could continue on to Flat Rock later. It was fun to explore a place I visited so much as a child and young woman. It has developed but not in the same way as Surfers Paradise. It seems a bit slower paced. The beach at Greenmount still has the gutter where I saved Tim from drowning when he was about nine. The day was perfect and yet the beaches weren't crowded.

Irene and Bill had arrived in the 29 th and set up their tent and annexe as well as the ground sheet for my small 'pup' tent. It was good to see them and we put up my tent and later went off to Ballina to get another tarp for extra shelter over my tent. Just as well because we had some large downpours which could have made us very

miserable.

This is a beach, beer and books holiday. Very low key and relaxing. Irene and Bill are very tired because they have been busy with work and their renovation at home. Christmas on top just adds to the fun and the work.

We have booked at the Ballina RSl for New Years Eve Comedy night again and it proves to be an excellent show and even better night with a very convivial group on the table. The comedians were quite topical though the F word was frequent.  I sent lots of New Year's Eve messages but the phone is going flat and I don't get a lot until the next day when I have it recharged.

Bill and I both have boogy boards now and have had great fun catching waves. The water is crisp and clear and the waves seems so invigorating. Compared to Croatia which was beautiful, clear but smooth the experience is more challenging physically. I feel the effort of battling to get out to catch a wave and the exuberant pleasure when you catch one and get a long ride in. I laugh like a child. I feel so alive.

We are spending a lot of time reading which in itself is such a gift when usually I read only in snatches of time. I love being able to be so emersed in a story. I am trying to finish the Game of Thrones series. It is very absorbing but I also find it rather depressing too.  The world seems to reflect so much of its stories. Art imitating life and life imitating art. A vicious cycle of viscous behaviours.

This morning we had a huge downpour that sent buckets of water off the tarpaulins and flooded across our floor but we were all dry and Bill averted a catastrophe by catching a sagging pole in time. 

Ron and Jan arrived and are esconsced in their new camper trailer. It is incredibly well set up and roomy. It is good to have them here as well. Collin and Peter are next door and opposite  are Murray and Belinda. They used to be great mates but they have had a falling out and are not talking. Very sad but we keep out of it and nothing has been said to us about why.

Thursday January 8th Flat Rock

The weather has been spasmodic with some very wet days interspersed with beautiful sunny days. We have managed to get a walk to Lennox Head in finally yesterday after Minday's abortive and very wet attempt. It was great to really get some serious walking in at last and Jan and I walked back as well after we had all breakfasted in Lennox. Irene, Bill and Ron caught a taxi back. Jan and I each went off for a swim soon after returning. The water is so beautiful. Cool and refreshing. Later Irene, Bill and I went surfing and bumped into Ron in the surf too. He had had a two hour sleep after the walk!  We caught lots of waves with our boogy boards and finally got Irene to try it. She usually stands in the water because she is a bit intimidated by the surf so this was a great triumph. I love surfing with the boards. It makes me feel like a kid again and I am often laughing as I ride a wave. It is exhilarating.

We have been off visiting the little towns around here with the Byron Bay Market a must as well. I bought a meditation "perch" which helps relieve the pressure on your knees when kneeling.

Lunch at the Bangolow Hotel is a ritual which was somewhat disappointing this year.  The food was not as delicious as usual and service quite ordinary. We waited so long for dessert that when we hit the shops again they were near closing. Irene saw some lovely art work that she was tempted by but when she brought Bill back the shop was closed. Saved her hundreds of dollars as they both liked it! I bought some new shoes in a neutral tone that were reduced 20% but not as much as I would have liked. They fitted very well which is getting more and more an issue so I purchased them anyway.  Bill had stayed at the pub to watch the cricket. Bangolow is one of my favourite towns near here because it is so charming.

On Wednesday night we went to the Lennox Head hotel for a celebratory dinner for Ron's Birthday (7th January) and in a way Jan and  I ( 15 th and 14 th January). The food was excellent though the dining area was rather noisy to begin. The table beside us had two very noisy children we were glad to see leave. Ron, Bill, Irene and I shared  a dozen natural oysters and half a dozen Japanese crumbed oysters. Delicious.  I ordered the Snapper and king prawn pie which appeared huge but was not quite as large in reality. The whole plate had a covering of light as air puff pastry. A table across the way with two guys comented it was as big as my head! We had a good laugh. A jug of Sangria washed it all down. I finished with an Affogsto that had Frangelica on the side. With three scoops of ice cream it was larger than I really needed but of course I ate it all. We started the party with Champagne before leaving and I had already had a G&T so we were all in a good mood. It was a lovely conclusion to a great day and still home by 10:00 pm.

Jan and Ron

Irene and Bill in foreground.

I will need to get back to my 2/5 regime pretty soon before I burst out of my clothes. We have been doing a lot of reading and not our usual daily walking because Bill and I are resting our plantar fasciitis. Although we have surfed most days  and that is physical I doubt it is burning the calories. We are on holiday so I don't worry too much but...

Jonathan texted to ask me to continue my two days a week babysitting and I have agreed but I felt a bit conflicted. I have enjoyed the freedom from constant obligations in 2014 and had planned painting classes and language classes for 2015  as well as my one day of work and now I have to rearrange or take night classes to fit it in. I took a long walk and a swim on my own to work through my feelings about this. I want to help them get ahead and this will ease the cost of child care plus the bond with Ziggy grows ever stronger so there are lots of bonuses. Freedom is tantalising however and two full 12 hour days with Ziggy is tiring. I will need to be organised rather than drifting along as I have been. I don't want to end up on a merry-go-round of every moment packed again. I am done with that and I have been enjoying keeping so fit with four days a week at the gym. I can't see how I will keep that level up now. I will just have to work out on the weekends as well.

Boxing Day 26th December

I expected to sleep in today but woke at my usual 6:30 am.  I was so tired coming home last night I nearly fell asleep at the traffic lights on the corner of Toorak and Tooronga roads. 5 mins from home thank goodness. We had a fun day with Ziggy providing most of the entertainment with his cute ways and happy little chatter. He adores Uncle Chico(Nick) and Lindo( Rebecca Nick's partner) and played games and sat with her. She is so loving and patient with him. He was playing hide and seek and was priceless with his hands over his eyes and counting numbers erratically. We ate in Roger's backyard and he had decorated one of his trees as a Christmas tree so all the presents were under the tree. Ziggy handed them out to everyone. He has this very purposeful stance with his little arms bent and fists clenched so he runs with his arms pumping. It is very endearing. He received lots of presents and was very keen to play with his tennis racquet. He had everyone involved throwing the ball so he could hit. He managed a few. He has pretty good eye hand coordination. He had bubbles too which are always fun. Christmas is more joyous with children around. Robert came laden with gifts from he and Wanda  who remained home with her mother. Mrs Leckie is not doing so well these days which is hard for them.

We had a lovely easy day and then when everyone left Roger and I watched an episode of Game of Thrones, took a walk,  and got ready for more visitors. I am going to miss Roger when he moves to Sydney for his new job. Rogers friends came and the evening was delightful as they are lovely people and I was joined by Juliette, Roger's Korean friend and Chris's Mother Jenny down from NSW. Other couples were hosting parents as well and I was struck by how considerate and caring they were when they talked of their 'in-laws'.  It seemed they were more generous than many heterosexual couples.

More delicious food was consumed of course and wine and present swapping. They gave lovely thoughtful and some fun presents. It was an evening full of friendship and love. Roger will miss these friends very much when he moves. 

The Christmas season is starting to find new rhythms and traditions. We can't cling to the old ways but must adjust and be glad for what we can share together.

Christmas spirit

This week has been full of Christmas parties with several nights out. As well I have had dentist visits and shopping. The apartment is pretty messy with wrapping materials across the dining table. I am actually sick of the mess! I set up my LED stars as a tree on the window and I am placing presents at the base. It looks a bit festive and finally started some Christmas cooking with Christmas carols in the background. That is an old tradition I haven't visited for a long time. 

My restless heart seemed to settle once I got into the cooking and a sense of accomplishment washed over me as I wrote many Christmas cards though I realise now I may have missed a few people. It has been a bit haphazard over the last few years with work consuming most of my energies. 

Yesterday my god-daughter had a delayed birthday celebration for her 21st. She and her mum cooked up a storm with Amy ambitiously cooking seafood paella and delicious salads while Jill made two desserts and a chocolate birthday cake. Amy did a great job with the Paella. She has just finished her BA in psychology and hopes to go onto her honours year at Melbourne University and is also turning into a great cook too like her mum Jill whose desserts were scrumptious.

It was a lovely family occasion with my other cousin Pam and her daughter Kristin and her delightful, lively little girls, Steve (Jiills husband and Amy's dad) his sister and her partner and two adult children Jordan and Kassie as well as Rhys ( Amy's brother) and his pretty girlfriend Emma. 

Rhys is training to be a weight lifter and has developed huge muscles since I last saw him. He is entering a competition next year. I could have used his strength last night when I nearly tipped a jar of tomato sauce over myself in the struggle to get the lid off the jar. Some sauce went flying into the sink thank goodness  when the lid finally budged!

Kristin fell asleep on the couch amidst all the noise while the girls were playing with Jill's lone chicken. What a placid little animal allowing itself to be carted around by the girls. Full time parenting is only meant for the young and they still get tired!

I wonder about these women who start families in their late forties. How do they cope with lively children? Love conquers all I guess.

Today another party with Peter's ' cousins.  I am on a roll into Christmas now.