The challenge of new friends

I have been pursuing my country romance from a distance and that has its challenges. Communication through phone and email is so much more influenced by tone and the implied meaning of the message. It is sometimes difficult to be sure you are both on the same wavelength. 

I was looking forward to visiting his part of the country this weekend but it has become somewhat more complicated by a death in the extended family.

The funeral is on Friday when I had hoped to be in Sale. Now I will go later in the day and probably miss visiting my friends in Maffra which is on the way. I was going to stay overnight with them on Thursday but now it may be a quick visit only.

I haven't done much country driving for awhile and so feel a bit rusty. It is three hours and hopefully the traffic isn't too bad. I am supposed to pick up some art work in Morwell on the way. It is funny in that I feel like I am part of his life yet not.  I am excited to see him again. 

Nick my son has requested the address where I will be staying. He is quite protective which is sweet and sensible. If anything happened on the way to or from, they have an idea of my whereabouts at least  I suppose. 

I have volunteered to assist a community organisation to catalogue their photgraphs. It will be an interesting project and I can work from home. I also said I would help Refugees with their English and job interview skills. That could be interesting. I have two art classes underway and Ziggy on Tuesday nights and all day Wednesday. The week is pretty full. I am happy with the balance but I need to put a break on anything else now. 

Rhythm of Life

First week of February and I feel like my life is back on track after the freewheeling holidays. I have started my art classes again and feel such excitement that I just want to keep painting. I have volunteered to help out an organisation that assists people to transition from work to retirement. I will be doing some cataloguing of their photos so it feels good to be helping and using my skills too.

Book club had its first meeting and we had a very vigorous discussion over 'A little life'. We all decided it was a profound read and very importantly, well written. 

I have been struggling with hay fever for the last two weeks and resorted to taking antihistamines daily. My eyes were streaming and crusty in the mornings. Yuk and uncomfortable. I postponed giving blood because I thought I was sick but in the end I think it was just hayfever. I never used to suffer this but I do now.

I have been fascinated with the city skyline over the last two weeks. The changing moods are quite intriguing and I have taken lots of photos. Today it looks like a gauze lays over the city because it is almost white and the buildings seem soft grey without any distinct lines.

I am still working on getting the second bedroom set up and the excess 'stuff' moved from the wardrobe  and the lounge room. It is a slow business or rather a boring task and I keep taking lots of breaks. I have been feeling quite tired from resuming the gym  and other regular activities. Going too hard as usual! 

I finally told my sons that I was going to start dating and they went through all the cautionary rhetoric that made me smile inwardly. Particularly the bit about weirdos and it not being like it was in ' my day'. It is rather sweet and amusing having your grown up children giving you advice! In the end they were okay with the idea though Nick announced (smiling)he would probably kill anyone who hurt me! Very protective.

I am resolved to really get my financial house in order so that I have a very clear picture of my circumstances and can manage it better than I am now. 

The end of the holidays

Last week was full on with my friend from the country down and visits from Roger from Sydney which precipitated Yum Cha with the family.  I squeezed in a walk along the river which was delightful even though it was wet. You can feel very 'in rhe bush' down by the river as it is so peaceful hidden row boatsreflections on the river.
I have seen enough movies to earn a free pass after all the visitors this week!  

I have yet to get my lounge room organised but as I am not working I am not stressing over that task. I have needed to organise a lot of appointments so it seems like the holiday period is over. The kids go back to school next week which is the official end of summer holidays. 

It was Australia Day on Tuesday and I wasn't feeling good with a sore throat but in the end I was sick of myself as well and took off to the open day at Government House, which I had never visited and then to the National Gallery of Victoria to see the Ai WeiWei and Andy Warhol exhibition. There were lots of antique cars on display leading up to Government House which was interesting too.

The classic Monaro

Ai WeiWei Caonima Balloon Bird Balloo installations.

government house 1876

Had Ziggy as usual and visited with my friend Jane who has a little West Highland terrior which Ziggy was keen to take for a walk to the park. He discovered that Blackie was quite strong and it isn't quite as easy as it looks but he loved him and learned about how dogs get to know you by sniffing and licking. We had a lovely time at her place. Ziggy watered the vegetables, rolled in the grass and ate lots. I had to remind him that he wasn't at home and couldn't just assume he could ask for whatever he wanted. When we left he spontaneously burst out with a ' thank you for having me' and gave lots of bye byes. I was so proud of him.

I have missed time with my girlfriends which is a new feeling.  Being free to just ring and say lets have dinner and a movie  was something I took for granted. The ensuing chit chat is always interesting and broad of topic. My idea to extend my circle of friends to include opportunities to meet men is good in theory but quite hard to actually achieve and the effort required  is enormous. Makes me wonder if I really want to. 

I have volunteered to assist with some cataloguing for a Life Activities Organisation and also to be part of a focus group as well. It is a foray into a new world away from work. I need to be careful not to book up my time because I want to get writing and painting this year. I have to keep focused!

Mum's cancer has moved to her liver which was disappointing but inevitable. She is still well and not inclined to take any treatment but I have finally decided not to go to the UK after all. The trip to Japan is as far as I want to go or as long as I want to be away when Mum is managing her condition. I feel sure I will need to assist Mum  after Jonathan's wedding in September.  A pessimistic view but I think Mum is readying herself to join Dad. I will be bereft when she is no longer amongst us. 

The weather has been so humid and then hot and wet. Not typical Melbourne weather.

A golden morning guilds the buildings at 6 am

The same day at 1:30pm as a storm rolls over the city.

Missed publishing a post.

I just discovered that I hadn't posted the cruise with Mum. I had so much trouble with the internet while away.  It is completely out of synch now but it won't matter I suppose. 

Today I found out about Mum's cancer development and it has moved into her liver. They are still suggesting she will have 12 to 18 months but we are just hoping she will be okay for the Wedding. 

It is a rather disappointing development. I had hoped it would be slow growing but it is what it is and we just have to accept.

The cruise with Mum

We have returned from our cruise around New Zealand. It was a great success and Mum had a most enjoyable time. We were a little disappointed that we did not sail out of Sydney in the daylight as expected. There were some repairs required on the propeller apparently. We just had champagne and met fellow sailors to fill in time. We then explored the ship. 

The lights of Sydney were beautiful as we passed out of the harbour

Then we were on the open seas and a large swell was rolling. That was funny as we staggered up hallways and down staircases or found the fastest lifts. Everyone had an air of excitement about the next two weeks.  I had taken the Kwells for sea sickness and they worked perfectly the whole time. We found the library and snaffled the only scrabble board for the days ahead.

We soon felt at home and after dinner went to the Blues club for music before bed. 

The rocking of the boat was very soothing and we slept well. From then on it was breakfast, scrabble, activity, ( facial, massage, walk around the deck, visit the art gallery) lunch, scrabble, dance classes, talking to people, trivia, bingo, oh! Gosh it is time for dinner! Dinner, a show and then the blues club or piano bar before bed. 

The days changed when we had shore stops. Sailing into Milford sound was quite spectacular, we saw dolphins and the tail of a whale. Next was Dusky Sound and then Doubtful Sound.

The clouds fulfilled the old name 'Land of the long white cloud'.

We saile around the bottom of New Zealand and it was incredibly rough and windy but we were comfortable. Our first port was Duneden where we went ashore and took a hop on hop off tour to cover all the best places. The botanical gardens were particularly beautiful.

 

Back in Melbourne

I have returned to Melbourne and the weather is HOT- 40 degrees and higher. The balcony plants are all looking fried. I will have to reconstruct my garden now I am home. I have returned to a tip in the lounge room because I have all the furniture from the second bedroom in there waiting to be emptied and removed. The new pull down bed is fabulous as is the new desk but I haven't had time to get on top of the cleanup. Because it was my birthday the  week i returned I have been out lunching and dining most days as well as minding Ziggy. 

Dinner with the family and Ziggy for my birthday at a Vietnamese Restaurant.

 I have also had an all day art class in the Botanical gardens which was challenging and fun. 

This  week I have finally realised that I am not returning to paid work and it feels a bit odd. I would usually be at enrolments and getting ready for classes. It feels wonderful to be free but also strange and disorienting. I am sure I will adjust. I have signed up for a Thursday art class and will attend Dawn's monthly workshops but I will attempt to keep a freer schedule this year. I need to save the money too with Japan coming up as well as Jonathan's wedding! 

Punting on the lake in the Botanical gardens. 

January 5 Th Ballina

We have finally settled down and started to relax. The rhythm of the days is wake with the morning light, read awhile, have breakfast then swim ,  read, lunch, read, swim, dinner and read in bed.The weather has been really wet and so swimming hasn't been on the agenda so much and the surf is very choppy even if it is warm. Irene and I spent a morning soaking in the rock pools.

We tried meditating but I kept feeling little critters  nibbling my bottom which was rather disturbing!

We have been shopping and to the Byron Market where I had a Tarot reading. Haven't done that for awhile but it was fun and maybe useful. At least the reader thought I was younger. I have been having some flirtatious emails with the country romance but the power keeps running out and it takes ages to charge. He rang one morning because I hadn't sent any communications for a day or so but it is rather inhibiting having conversations in the tent. Everyone can hear everything you say!

We went to see Starwars with Jan and Ron which was fun.  Irene and I went to browse the shops and I saw a new bikini which I liked. They are so pricey though and I wanted to be more frugal this year. I have a few bills yet to pay from the holiday but it is a well made bikini and looks good. I will put it on hold and make do. We will be going out to dinner tonight because we like to alternate and the esky doesn't keep much food overall.

Today I bustled Irene and Bill down to the beach before it rained so we could get a swim. It seems to take ages to get ready with sun screen and gathering our towels and hats, I get a bit frustrated and just want to get going. It rained while we were in swimming but the temperature was still warm. I managed a few great rides on the boggy board.

Cousin Jan made a visit to check out the camping and ended up staying over night. She was pretty stoic about sleeping on a mat in her sleeping bag. We had a good day though with swims and walks and then dinner at a new burger place in Lennox head followed by delicious ice creams.

The tent opposite us were very noisy all night which made everyone cranky( though I actually slept through most of it amazingly). Not good camping etiquette. If you want to party past 10:30 pm you need to go to the beach where no one will hear you. 

On my last morning I had the best surf. The water was glassy green and perfectly clear. No white foamy backwash either. I had several great rides in to the shire and on my final run I was laughing with joy until I stopped at the feet of this young woman. She made a comment about me enjoying myself so I offered her the boogie board.  She was taken aback at first but when I explained it was given to me second hand and that I couldn't take it on the flight home and I always give the boards away she was thrilled to take it. As I left the beach I saw her plunge into the surf. It is good to share the fun.

Bill and I pulled down my tent and surprise, surprise even mamged to get it back into the carry bag. Once in the suitcase , I finished packing the wet towels and bathers and after a shower I was ready to go.