Too old for hangovers

 This was a week full of activity. It started with my last art class for the year where I manged a passable still life and finally got to know one of the other would be artists. We finally got to talking a bit more personally and discovered we were both librarians! We had always felt some empathy towards each other but there was never time to really develop a friendship. I hope Louisa comes back next year as I have booked in for two classes now. Can't wait and will practice over the holiday break.

Next was Ziggy and I having a swim before playing with Abbey at the park. I wasn't sure how he felt about getting his face wet but he loves jumping in and so I will attempt to teach him to swim this summer. There are three Grannies' who attend Mini Maestros who are called the groovy grannies by the teacher! We have started to have coffee together afterwards and then go to the park. It is just as frantic as when we had our own children but we didn't do baby chinos then! In fact we rarely did the cafe scene at all. No money for that and we just all went to the park with a picnic.  We are all subject to cultural change. 

 Ziggy, Abby and Stella mauling Christmas tree.

The rest of the time I spent organising the travel for the wedding in Thailand next year and seeming to spend a lot of money. I still feel a bit anxious at times about my finances. I haven't quite got used to not having a steady income being paid by an employer rather than living off my super.

On Friday I had my first Christmas party. The apartment complex I live in has a'village community group' and we have a party every year as well as other functions during the year. It is a good way to meet new people because despite the number of residents you really don't see many around casually.  

It was a fun party and I met several new people, some are keen walkers  as well. One new friend invited a group of us back to her apartment after the dancing finished when the band packed up. That was great and I even had a dance WITH A MAN for a change! That was novel. We retired to Shelley's place and carried on with the party. She had a vynal collection and we listened to an eclectic mix of music and talked on. By the time it was midnight I knew I had to go home. We had been partying since 6:30. I was feeling a little unsteady on my feet. I haven't mixed my drinks like that for some time or felt that drunk and I was supposed to be babysitting the next day. Not a good mixture!

I crashed but my friend LeeLin was stuck in the lift with the wrong house keys and had to return to Shelley's to retrieve her own in order to get to her floor. The hazards of apartment life. 

At about 6:30 am the fire alarm went off and we were told to evacuate! I sat bolt upright in bed trying to grasp the meaning of this instruction. Still bleary eyed I grabbed my purse, a dressing gown and house keys then bounced off the walls all the way down from the 6 th floor. It was a false alarm due to fumes from the bakery in Coles downstairs and the storm that had passed over early that morning. Needless to say I heard no storm.  While I was contemplating going to the supermarket or the cafés for breakfast in my pjs Jonathan rang to say the early babysitting was not required after all but to come later. Off the hook I retreated to bed again once we were allowed to return. I had wondered whether I was actually safe to drive.   Hangovers are no fun. I couldn't even tolerate vegemite on toast. I ended up having a nutrablast veggie drink.  I have to admit I was not sparking with my usual enthusiasm and it was a pretty quiet day with Ziggy, followed by night babysitting as well while the parents enjoyed a free night at the movies. I am too old for those capers.

Sunday was very quiet until Grace and LeeLin wanted a catchup at the cafe downstairs. Sundays they have live music and we had suggested meeting there Friday night before the party evolved. It was a pleasant afternoon and a chance to get to know Grace better. We got talking about meeting men. LeeLin has been a little depressed and lonely the last few months and we have broached the subject of finding a new companion. She is widowed too but not for as long as me while Grace is divorced and much younger. We are all very nervous about exploring new relationships. 

When we left I invited LeeLin to share dinner with me and we decided to look at some of the dating websites. Another couple who live here had met this way and the wife had suggested Leelin do the same but LeeLin is too nervous and we both talked about whether we were ready to take the plunge or not.  As it turned out I half registered while we explored the sites and now I am getting 'nudges' to  give more info! I feel really awkward and unsure about further involvement so I will let it sit until I feel more ready.

Christmas concerts and Cambodia

I am rather disappointed in myself for letting the blog slide. I really enjoyed keeping track of my doings and feelings while I was walking but since I have returned I have not found the 'right' time for writing and I think I have felt that it is probably boring to other people. I have also had difficulty uploading my photos as well.  Technology is a wonderful thing but also challenging and a fickle friend.
The weeks seem to be flying past and I have done so much since the last post.
My bushwalking friends booked a lodge up at Mt Buller, about two hours north east of Melbourne in the Alpine region, for the Melbourne Cup weekend. This is really only one day but it usually morphs into a weekend away because Melbourne Cup is a holiday (in Melbourne only) and it is on the first Tuesday in November.  It is the horse race that stops a nation for the two minutes it takes to run! We usually get away on a Friday and return on Tuesday evening but this year I was going away to HongKong on Tuesday morning so we all returned on the Monday.  We intended to do some day bush walks rather than camp and hike as we used to do. We are not organising the long walks we loved  to undertake a few years ago now that we all have grandchildren and travel overseas a lot more.
Buller was unexpectedly cold but beautiful.  It snowed which was magical but did pose an issue for walks.  We ended up painting and drawing as three of us have embarked on art programs over the last two years. It was such fun to work with friends like  this.  We also did a lot of talking, eating and drinking of course. Walk? We managed a couple over the weekend then it was back to Melbourne and my trip to HongKong and Cambodia

 Sunday Mt BullerMonday Mt Buller!

I flew to Hong Kong for the birthday of Eileen,  Peter's cousin. It was a lot of fun meeting her friends from, Vancouver, Malaysia, New York, Scotland, Hong Kong plus spending time with my brothers and sisters -in -laws, her sister Kathleen and daughter Kate who I had visited in Kent as well as
the Aussie cousins from South Australia. Hong Kong was still experiencing the protests which are disrupting bus routes and general transport. They are very tidy with their tents all in a neat row.

Eileen had organised a cruise to Po Toi Island where we swam, hiked and of course ate great seafood. It was a fun day and we also paid tribute to Peter's  Aunt who's ashes had been spread around here. We all threw flowers onto the water. It was very rough past the island so the boat was tossing and rolling but calmed once we went into the cove to go ashore.

The restaurant was very humble but the fish and seafood served was so delicious. Cousin Lawrie had a great time helping to serve the food.  

 The   trip back was calm and it was interesting seeing the city lights.

Next day was the actual party and what a hoot that turned out to be. Eileen was piped in with bagpipes,  two of her god sons performed rap dances with great flair and then we had karaoke. Each table had to perform a song. It was such fun and we danced all night. Such a happy occasion.
Friday after was a shopping day in Hong Kong and then off to Cambodia.
In Cambodia we met Sister Helene who runs a charity that assists young girls to recover from being abandoned or trafficked in the sex trade. We were privileged to visit her hostel and a hospice for palliative care. The group(except for Anthea, Lawrie, Karen and myself)  that went to Cambodia with Eileen were all school friends who had been taught by Sister Helene at high school in Hong Kong.

 

They were all wanting to help her project in Cambodia and it was such a warm reunion. We were all inspired.
After visiting with Sister we went to the Palace, the killing fields, and the genocide museum. It was a
sobering experience. Phnom Penh, and the rest of Cambodia, is still in recovery from the Pol Pot regime.  It is a country literally rebuilding itself and very poor still. After being in Europe and Hong Kong it is quite shocking to see how poor and humble the lives of the Cambodians are. Despite this they are very eager to do a good job and be helpful to tourists.

 We flew to Siem Reap  to visit the temples of Angor Wat and Banyon, Angor Thom and others. They are so mysterious and grand. It was fascinating to learn about the history of these buildings and the civilisation that created them. I was particularly interested because most of it was built over the sane period as the castles in Spain (9th to 12th century). It was extremely hot and after a couple of days we were templed out and rearranged our program to visit the floating village on Tonle Lake. That was fascinating as it really is a floating village; schools, churches, police station, supermarket all floating.
They shelter in behind mangroves as the lake is so large you can't see to the other side at all. Most are Vietnamese fisherfolk but to be honest I am not sure I would be wanting to eat the fish. Some fish are farmed right beside the houseboats and that means everything is in the water. Despite that the
houseboats are kept neat and even have plants and are painted brightly. We are so privileged but I am sure they are happier.

 

Back to Siem Reap and I was very keen to see silk made. I had silkworms as a child but never made a thing with the cocoons(that I recall anyway). We visited a silk'factory' and saw the whole process. It was fascinating and so interesting and labour intensive. These artisan training places give training and work to the most undereducated young people and are also trying to revive the craft skills that were decimated by PolPot. After seeing how hard the women worked at the silk spinning we felt that the price for the silk products was not so outrageous after all and spent quite a bit!

Back to Phnom Penh and dinner at the Foreign Correspondents Club Bar, which is an institution and has photos from the war period up the walls. There was a Japanese guy there who we asked to take our photo. He had been puzzling over us as a group and offered. He was an ex journo.
Back to Hong Kong and a bit of shopping then home to Melbourne. A whirlwind trip but interesting and fun getting to know new people.
I had no sooner arrived then an SOS from Jonathan asking me to mind Ziggy while they did a photo
shoot on the same day for Common Dust their new Tshirt/clothing business. Just as well Hong Kong is mostly in the same time zone and I don't  get jet lag!
Since then I have been applying myself to writing the two units for the library degree and we had Ziggy's Christmas concert for Mini Maestros. Grandma and Ziggy  with the rest of his class had to perform in front of lots of parents and the Muneri/Leong entourage. Ziggy has been rather shy to start in his classes but not here! He was waving to his Aunties and parents and a veritable show pony! He was thrilled to receive his Blue and gold ribbon. Grandma didn't do too badly either, kept in tune, and in sync with the movements.

The entourage from the right, other grandmother,  Regina( GoGo), Chipewa Clare's sister, Clare, Jonathan and Ziggy.

My art has branched out to watercolours. I love it but I am learning how difficult a medium it is when you know nothing. It requires patience and consideration which is quite a challenge for me. My usual style is to leap in and start splashing about but this is a gentle art and I am intrigued by that. My late husband used a frog as my symbol on the family computer. He had a red sports car, Jonathan had a skateboard and Nick had a guitar. When I asked why I got a frog, he explained it was because I was a
great one for jumping into everything. I couldn't disagree and decided it was symbolic of my general enthusiasm for life and saw it as a compliment. It isn't necessarily the best way to approach watercolours but I am sticking with it.

 I have only had a few lessons so no Van Gogh but hopefully potential for improvement.

Ziggy work and travel

Minding Ziggy has become a wonderful experience as we establish our little routines. We visit the cafés after music for baby chino and he charms the staff by being so friendly. His "hullo lady " greeting or his wave gives everyone a smile.  Life is so much fun when you are confident and outgoing. My twins were way more reserved and so this is such a different experience.
His mum has gone to Africa for the funeral of her grandfather so Ziggy needs a few more days of my time and he misses his Mum. He is still happy but a little more prone to needing cuddles. He is two also and starting to assert himself more!
I am trying to write the 24 lectures for the library degree but it is going much slower than I anticipated. I won't finish before I go to Hong Kong and Cambodia that is for sure.

Getting sick is no fun

This week started so well with art and Ziggy. He loves the Mini Maestros program we attend. I have to make an elephant trunk for one of the songs. I made it from grey tights and it seems pretty good. He certainly loves swinging it like an elephant!
I didn't wash some Rebs properly and gave myself a fearful bout of diarrhoea. I thought I was going to pass out. It took about three days to recover. It was a good warning about how to get an ambulance crew into the building . I followed up with the building manager to find out what the protocol is in an emergency. My place is like Fort Knox to get into!
 Anyway I was well enough to join the tour of the wholesale fruit and flower markets I had booked a couple if weeks earlier. I needed to be up by 5:30 am and when we arrived at 6:00 am it was starting to get quiet. Peak activity is at 3/4in the morning. Soon this market will move to the outer suburbs and be less accessible. The group went to breakfast at a new cafe up the road from our apartment complex that gas started up while I was overseas. Very nice and very busy. A little inner city chic.

Flowers from Asia and Sth Africa

Chillis

This creative life is wonderful

I have replanted  and rearranged my balcony garden. What a satisfying task. It took me two whole days to complete. Imagine me astride a four foot Yacca plant feet clamped to either side of the planter pulling and pushing to little avail with dirt falling all around. In the end I had to hack at the roots with my trusty trowel to dislodge this giant plant from the planter.  You know how it feels? Halfway through the job you wish you hadn't started but you've gone too far to turn back? I reminded myself I walked a thousand kilometres and more this year one step at a time, one day at a time. I can finish. I did and then cleaned up, and got rid of the offending plant.
When you only have a balcony you can't leave a mess! Next day more mess as I planted up my vegetables and flowers. I am a happy little gardener and the lettuces are coming on really well. I will be picking leaves pretty soon.
I started a drawing class which I have found so exhilarating. I just love it. The class is unstructured but the teacher is very good at giving individual instruction. I have faced my fears and drawn a portrait for the first time. It was very challenging but I was thrilled with the result. This class is a great way to start a week. I walk out so happy and I can see my drawing improving every week.

Week one of the new routine

Monday I started my drawing class.  Confronted with a blank page I nearly fled.  I remember that feeling from my first ever lesson and acknowledged the fear, then put it behind me. My first lines on the page were a bit average  and then I just let go and focused on looking at the objects and trying to remember the things I learned last year. At the end of the two hour class I felt so happy! I had managed a pretty decent  representation of the lemons and the horrible/difficult shell and leaves. I felt  such a sense of exhilaration and exhaustion. That is a good way to start the week.
Tuesday I took Ziggy to Mini Maestros a kids music program. Our little extrovert loves music and was eager to participate even though it was his first time. He will end up playing an instrument for sure and he loves to dance. It was such fun though I am the Grandma amongst the mums.
Ziggy made me laugh when he waved to the sparrows and said hullo with such conviction I almost thought he might have seen Peter's spirit. When I walked the Camino Frances I often felt Peter ( my husband) was with me when little birds sang as I walked along. They always sang when I felt tired or a bit discouraged and never flew away until I passed them.
Life away from the Camino is so very busy. It is rich in relationships and activities which are interesting and fun. I miss being out doors though.  Perhaps I can walk more in the parks around home.

All my good intentions are flying out the door

It has been four weeks since I posted any news.  Not having a regular schedule for writing is not good. I have to admit I am still in return and catch up phase but that came to an end when I returned from Queensland.  Mum came down for Ziggy's second birthday which was a lot of fun and she had a few days helping me babysit as well so that was a bonus for her. It was touching to see Ziggy and my ninety year old Mum together.
He is a budding footballer and they were sharing the kicking of balls. The actual party was a stellar affair and Ziggy handed out cake to all without dropping any which I think is quite amazing for a two year old. He has hit the 'It's mine' phase so we are reminding him about sharing all the time. Then it was back to Queensland and catching up with cousins: Tracey who completed the Camino Frances while I was on the Via de la Plate, Jan who I travelled with in Croatia and Diane who is the ex travel agent and font of wisdom. This whirlwind visit left both Mum and I weary. I forget she is ninety and I think I finally started to come back to earth.
My return to Melbourne and a quiet week at last allowed me to post gifts to France, book the car for service, get my medical check ups sorted, complete my Tax return, finalise my Hong Kong Cambodia trip and travel insurance and finally, ATTACKED the DESK! It is a daunting job because I need to throw out stuff and dispose of the old computers.
Strangely I found an overwhelming desire to wash the filthy windows and outdoor furniture instead. Procrastination lurks everywhere even in virtuous tasks. The windows look amazing and the desk is clear. The lounge room is cluttered with detritus from the desk but I can't stand it so it will go quickly.
What I faced this week was no social engagements and I was a bit lost. I needed to get to this though, because I need to find the balance between fun and repose.  It was peaceful and I reminded myself I want quiet time too.
How to spend my time is interesting because work takes up so much of it. I am aghast at what I managed to fit in before and know I was semi manic.  I love the calm I feel these days and just keep reminding myself I will get to everything on my list in good time.  I wanted to take up drawing again and I need to get started on the writing of the library units. They are a priority now.